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Is it OK to have sex while you’re engaged? After all, you’re going to get married anyway.

06/01/2011 Leave a comment

An eye-opener article to all those who are engaged (and still single as well..).   Read more here in chastity.com.

When a husband gives his body to his bride and a bride gives herself to him, their bodies speak the truth: “I am entirely yours.” On the other hand, sex anywhere but in marriage is dishonest. No matter what, it cannot say, “I am entirely yours.” Therefore, having sex during the engagement is not a matter of “peeking under the wrapping paper.” It is a matter of completely missing the point of sex and marriage.

After reading the article, the below statement that became a challenge for me (and other men) – “the measure of true love“:

In the meantime, know that each time you resist sin you bless one another. In addition, God has issued a special challenge to men. When a man perseveres in the virtue of chastity, he helps fulfill that challenge: to love his bride as Christ loves the Church, to give himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, that he might present his bride to God “without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish” (Eph. 5:25–27). A man should consider his acceptance of this challenge to be the measure of his love for his bride. Imagine Christ hanging on the cross, saying to you, “This is how I got my bride to heaven. How else do you think you will get yours there?” When an engaged man embraces such a challenge and grows in purity with his fiancée, you will notice on his wedding day that his bride’s soul matches her dress. She glows. . . And so will he when he sees her walking down the aisle to him.

I also noticed the site’s branding (quote) from St. Josemaria Escriva, “When you decide firmly to lead a clean life, Chastity will not be a burden on you: It will be a crown of triumph.

Chastity: The Guardian of Love

05/17/2011 Leave a comment

I just had a good read about “chastity” while trying to collect some links about overpopulation, reproductive health bill and contraception.  A virtue that most of us almost resented and failed to pursue in our life time.

If we are to truly love a person of the opposite sex, we must be able to see much more than the person’s sexual value. We must see their full value as a person and respond to them in selfless love. Wojtyla says that chastity allows us to do just that. “The essence of chastity consists in quickness to affirm the value of the person in every situation and in raising to the personal level all reactions to the value of ‘the body and sex'” (p. 171).

However, the man without chastity sits in a very sad situation: He is not free to love. He may have some good intentions and a sincere desire to care for his beloved, but without chastity, his love will never flourish, for it will not be pure. It will be mixed with a tendency to view his beloved primarily in terms of her sexual values, which make his heart delight in emotional enjoyment or make his body stir in sensual desire. Wojtyla explains that the man without chastity cannot selflessly love his beloved for who she is as a person, because his heart is so preoccupied with the emotional and sensual pleasure he receives from her (p. 164).

Read on using this link.

However, it is not too late, by God’s help and grace, we can pursue this virtue.  As per St. Paul’s statement, “I can do all this through Him who gives me strength.” —Phil 4:13 (NASB).  Even in a married life, God is challenging us, asking us to be “chaste” and see human sexuality in His perspective.  This is why Catholic Church is prohibiting her sons & daughters to use contraceptives.

May God Blesses You!

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